So DH is back in AFG, just 9 months after he got home last time. I'm trying to keep my head up, keep pushing forward, but I just hate it. It'll be better once we're through the next 2 months, because each time I think about this time last year, it's too much of a mind warp that all my memories are of DH in afg ... and he's there now. I just can't wrap my head around it.

One of the guys with him writes for his hometown newspaper. & I came across the link. Here's the part of the story that got me and just made me really sad.

Yesterday I was sitting in the USO tent with a friend who like me was returning to Camp Leatherneck after too brief an absence, and he started talking about how, though he hated the very idea of it, he felt almost comfortable here, almost at home, almost like he was back where he belonged.

The friend he's referring to is my DH. They're only stopping over at Leatherneck before heading onto their FOB, but apparently it feels like home to them. I know I'm overreacting, I know that it's normal for him to feel this way - but home is with me. DH belongs with me. It's not some dirty, sandy tent. It's not back in a helo. It's not FOB-hopping or patrolling. I know it's this life, I know all of that - I just feel unbearably sad. Same as I felt at the end of his first deployment. I was proud of all he had accomplished, proud of how strong we'd been, but just incredibly, poignantly, and unbearably sad that we could be apart for 7 months. That we knew what this was like. That's how I feel tonight. Just sad. It broke my heart to read that.

Aww! I know how you go through all those emotions. Stay positive (try to) take your mind off things like a drink with the girls or indulging in hobbies. I remember getting into a lot of crafts when I was down about being away from my DH.... but the down times are hard. Sometimes you have to let yourself be sad, then get over it and move on. As long as you dont stew in it, you will be just fine!

 Hey girl, idk exactly how much advice I can give you, I just wanted to know that I know how you feel in a lot of aspects. My DH just got home from his first deployment in the past few months and the readjustment has been so hard. To hear him talk with his buddies about MISSING the sandbox is just depressing to me somewhat... like you, I know that it was his job, and that is what this life entails... but I cannot keep myself from being idk somewhat jealous? I don't want him to miss the sandbox, after being apart that long, hearing him talk about missing the stan is the last thing I want to hear. My DH in a fight has even mentioned how things were just so much easier over there.... (he didn't have to worry abt money bills etc)  yah ok but now he's back HERE with me, which is where I'd like for him to want to be if that makes any sense.  Anyhow I know this isn't much advice, all I know to tell you there is just to keep busy and trying not to look at the calendar everyday helped me... You can do this girl! We're here for you =)

Thanks ladies!

I'm keeping busy between work and volunteering - I just have a big 'ol case of the bah humbugs.

& Ashton - exactly! I've heard DH say he misses aspects of it, but it just cut really deep for him to say that it felt like home. I've moved all over and the only place that feels like home is with him.

:*( This makes me sad for you! I dont know what to say to make it hurt less. If there is anything I can do let me know!!!!! This may not make it better, but he may not have said that word for word. He might have paraphrased your DH's words. Hope things get less blah.

So DH is back in AFG, just 9 months after he got home last time. I'm trying to keep my head up, keep pushing forward, but I just hate it. It'll be better once we're through the next 2 months, because each time I think about this time last year, it's too much of a mind warp that all my memories are of DH in afg ... and he's there now. I just can't wrap my head around it.

It was closer to 10 months between ours, but this is so exactly me. I am just.. over it.
I would probably react the same way. I would be so sad if DH called anywhere other than with me home. This was sooo not upbeat.. but I feel you. lol We'll get through it!

Thanks ladies! I debated bringing it up to DH, but did yesterday in my email. I wanted to be sure it was something that actually hurt, not just me being silly. He explained it in a way that made me feel a lot better. He didn't use the word 'home' just normal. The guy who wrote the blog was there for a year last time and is single - he thinks it feels like home. It's weird how much that word just hurt! I felt a lot better and was glad I brought it up. Thanks ladies!!

My mom used to get so mad at me and my siblings when we would say we were going "home" but we really meant to our college dorm. To us, that was our "home" because that's where we slept and where we were most of the time. He probably didn't mean it as being "home" but rather where he has spent most of his time. I know I would have been upset too though. Hang in there!

I know how you feel, both about back to back deployments and the "it's like home" type of statements. My husband used to say that Iraq/Afghanistan was easier than being stateside. Really? Easier than being home with the wife and kids who love you and where you sleep on a comfortable bed with REAL, hot food?

(((hugs)))

I know how you feel, both about back to back deployments and the "it's like home" type of statements.

I remember once you told me & USMC Funsize that back-to-backs just plain stink. I agree!

But I do feel like I'm hitting my stride. Whew! I was starting to think it wasn't going to happen! & USMC Funsize, I counted again. It was 10 months he was home for

My husband gets upset when I say I miss "home". I am referring to England when I say it as that is where I was born and raised and that's where all my family are. He says that wherever he and I are together is home, and I agree with him to a certain extent. Alaska is my home now..I go "home" from work etc but I can't help but call a place I have such strong ties to "home" as well...who says we have to only have one home?