Posted  on 18 May 2010 09:14 AM

Posted on 15 May 2010 05:35 PM
He's scared that it will cause him trouble with USMC he doesnt want to be punished and i dont want him to be either.

I've been following this thread, and this specific sentence is something that has been completely missed by most of the people who have responded.  You say you and your DH don't want to get into trouble with the USMC, yet you post all of these indescrections in a public forum, you have a picture of your DH, and your screen name is your last name (I'm assuming your DH's name also).  If you're really that worried, then you shouldn't be posting about any of this at all.  You've left a trail that leads right to your DH.  

I know you're looking for advice, and you've gotten some excellent advice from all the ladies here, but,  in the future, I would be careful about posting all of this stuff in a public forum.  I think people tend to forget that you don't need a login to read the postings on this site.  Anyone with a computer and the internet can read here.   

I actually didnt even think about that thanks.

Thanks to everyone for the advice, I think are gonna wait till hes back in November so we can deal with this together its hard enough already but him being overseas isnt helping get things done, and to the one who mentioned this being a public forum I didnt even think of that, thanks again.

I know I'm pretty late to the thread here. I thought I'd give a couple quick points from some one who has been dealing with this for the past 3 years. My step-daughter's mother has given us hell. First off, have him speak to someone one at JAG or legal aid so he knows what is coming down the pipe for him. If baby mama is stating she will be coming after him for child support, I strongly suggest you get a DNA test. I may be wrong, but I think the USMC will not pay out child support until their is proof of paternity. To save yourself hassle, if the DNA comes back positive file to have his name on the birth certificate ASAP, this will save you a lot of hell later on. For the baby to be enrolled in DEERS, they HAVE TO HAVE the birth certificate. Lastly, they can take up to 60% of your income. more if you owe back child support. She CAN NOT file for child support though the state your DH is stationed in, it has to be where the child resides. This may or may not play into your favor. Every time you speak to someone regarding this, you need to write it down in full detail with date, time and names. It will save your ass if there is miss-information. Oh, and if he is going to seek custody, standard visitation for a child under 2 is under an hour a week. Good luck, if you have any questions, PM me and I'll try to help you out.